Floating Through Emotional Storms (I have no idea what to call this blog)

  I absolutely hate New Year's resolutions. To me they feel like a huge challenge that can be failed and if I don't manage them it makes the end of the year more difficult than usual. I know it's February now but it's never too late to start on this idea. I think I stopped making resolutions at around 2017 and instead have been keeping a positives jar. You just need a jar that you can decorate if you like and some sticky notes. Throughout the year when you feel something has uplifted you or you have achieved something or you have even just had some tasty food you can write it on a sticky note and add it to your positives jar. At the end of the year it is a lovely thing to look back on the things that are in your positives jar and remember the good things because it's so easy to focus on the bad. One year I did have nothing in my jar but as the years have gone on I have learned how to use it. I don't try and write something every day, to me it is important to wri...

This is only my experience but I would love to hear if anyone can relate or would like to share their own experience. I remember being in my early twenties and my psychologist telling me that I'd probably start to feel better and not struggle so much with EUPD in my thirties or early forties. At the time I was really upset that I'd have to continue struggling for so long and the way things were described to me it was as if I would somehow be cured and have no symptoms of EUPD when that time arrived. I can see why some professionals think this is the case but, for me at least, it has only been a surface change. At some point maybe a few years ago my behaviour changed a lot. I had a big reduction in self harm, overdosing, and suicide attempts. This was not because I wasn't feeling intense emotions any more or because I didn't want to harm myself or die, I very much still felt these things, but I found as I got older I wasn't able to deal with the pain of more serious ...

  I find affirmations very cringey and I'm not very good at being nice to myself so when I try them I get into an argument with myself. The research says that you don't have to believe the affirmations you are telling yourself, that the more you repeat them the stronger they become in your mind and this can positively improve wellbeing. A while ago I found the best small business and supportive community ever - Sugar and Sloth (link) . They are so amazing and provide things like fun worksheets based on therapy techniques, cute pins and colouring books, motivational and understanding emails, and so much more, and have an amazing group on Facebook Sugar and Sloth Besties (link) . Through Sugar and Sloth I found a way to use affirmations but I still get to be a little horrible to myself. I love their colouring books and they are full of sweary affirmations. So I can be a mindful by doing the colouring and also try and process the messages without getting into an argument with myse...